I just watched The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo. It’s good, but watching anything, anything which shows women being victims of sexual violence sets me off.
I think it’s good to speak of such things openly and why I might react coldly to certain things. I have a weakness for revenge fiction such as Kill Bill, Sympathy for Lady Vengeance.
The reason is pretty simple: I’ve been objectified before. I believe every woman has. I have actually experienced forms of sexual harassment (more than once) in the workplace, public spaces, etcetera.
And for most part, I believe Asian society remains quiet (or woefully ignorant) of such issues. A point I raised just now at dinner was the case of a girl being groped at Zoukout 2010 (I think).
While the issue itself was disturbing, the comments surrounding it were even more so. Many men seemed to think she “deserved” it, she was a tranny, etc. I believe it’s irrelevant whether she was a transexual or not because the issue was clearly the violation of another human being.
I could write a whole essay/rant on this which will no doubt scare away many men (oh, what’s new) but I shall refrain from doing so because I believe I am scary/intimidating enough.
I’d rather be single forever than to submit to any man who believes it’s all right to violate another human being based on how they act or dress.
I’d rather be single forever than to marry a man who judges a girl for not being a virgin, but sleep around themselves (yes such men do STILL exist).
I’d rather be single forever than to be judged as loose just because I drink (sensibly) or because of the way I look.
P.S. Sorry this really makes me angry, any disrespectful comments for this post will hence not be tolerated. Also, I think I’m a rather feminine, straight woman which is why apparently it’s shocking I care so much and raise such issues on a regular basis (for those with simple minds at least).
